I often look back at my past relationships to see what they had in common. Where did I go wrong? How did I fail? I finally realize they all have the same common denominator. I failed to stand up for myself. I always put my significant other’s feelings ahead of my own. I did not want them to feel hurt or pain. I didn’t want … Continue reading Never be afraid to stand up for yourself
I used to believe I needed closure in order to get over a relationship, but I no longer believe this. I always wanted to know what happened. I would ask myself questions, like what did I do to cause this relationship to end? What could I have done better? I would reach out to the person to get closure. Now I know it is a … Continue reading Closure is no longer essential for me
I was in the same relationship for 18 years. Out of the 18 years that I was in that relationship, I was married for 9 of those years. The marriage was horrific and I finally found the courage to end it. I am not advocating for divorce but it was the best option for me. I was so broken that I never thought I would … Continue reading Built me up to break me
The phrase “losing my religion” originated in the southern region of the United States. It means losing one’s temper or civility or feeling frustrated and desperate. Often times we find ourselves in situations that causes us to lose our religion, but is it worth it? This question is one that we should be asking ourselves on a regular basis, especially when it comes to our … Continue reading Is it worth losing your religion?
I don’t if you know this, but love shouldn’t hurt. It is so easy to say the words I love you, but it is actually how you treat someone that tells them whether you love them or not. If the person that claims they love you is constantly hurting you, then they do not love you. Love is definitely an action word but it doesn’t … Continue reading Love shouldn’t hurt
I often wonder if people really know what love is. Any time somebody tells me that they love me but their actions do not line up with loving me, I always tell them that love is an action word. When you love somebody, you don’t want to hurt them. You want what is best for them and you want to protect them. So I say, … Continue reading How can you “intentionally” hurt someone you say you love?
I have learned some things in my life regarding relationships and finding the right person that compliments you. One of my life lessons is accepting that a person is who they are. When a person shows you a side of themselves that is not so flattering, don’t make excuses for their behavior, but understand that the behavior is a part of that person’s personality. You … Continue reading I don’t call myself a relationship expert but…
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