Most telling question to ask on the first date

Why did your previous relationship end? If the person blames the demise of their previous relationship on the other person, without taking any of the responsibility for the relationship ending, then that is a red flag. There are always 3 sides to every story. There’s the side of each person and the truth is somewhere in the middle. When I started dating after my divorce, I read an article that talked about this scenario. I did end up in a relationship where the person I was dating, blamed his ex for the previous relationship ending. Everything that happened in their relationship was her fault. He told me such a sad story, I felt bad for him. I believed everything he was saying. It wasn’t until I was deeply involved in our relationship that I started to see things about him that caused me to question what really happened in his other relationship. The article came back to mind, but it was already too late. There were certain events that happened in our relationship that made me analyze the stories he told me about his ex. His actions towards me, explained a lot of her actions towards him, especially if he was treating her in the same manner. I came to realize his ex wasn’t the only one who had issues in their relationship. He also had some serious issues that contributed to their relationship not working out. I learned from experience to beware, if you ask the person you are dating what happened in their last relationship and they take no responsibility for what ended it.

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