Have you ever had a boyfriend or a husband that you were hiding bits and pieces of yourself from? For those that really know me, they know that I have many, many facets to my personality. I can be quiet, loud, funny, silly, corney, smart, sophiscated and many other things. I like to have fun and I don’t take myself too seriously. I am a kid at heart. I have a song for every situation and I may decide to sing it at the time that the situation is occuring. I have a pretty vivid imagination and may share stories about what the animals were thinking when we they trying to cross the road and got hit by a car. Some might call me goofy. All of these things make me the person that I am.
I actually like who I am. I have been in relationships where my significant other found all the facets of my personality charming, but I just got out of a relationship where my significant other found half of my personality traits annoying. It got to a point where I did not feel comfortable being myself. I knew I had to hide certain aspects of who I was in order to keep from annoying the man I loved.
I finally realized when a person loves you, they accept and love all of you. You should not have to change who you really are to please them, especially when you are changing things the core components of who you are. I am now a firm believer that if you find you can’t be yourself, your complete self around your partner, they are most likely not the man for you. If you stay with this person, you will eventually grow to resent them for changing you into somebody that you don’t recognize. It will be a lot less painful to realize early that this is not a person that you should be with, because they can’t really love you if they don’t accept you for who you really are.