I remember growing up hearing that I should find somebody to date that went to one of the many churches that we affiliated with. As a matter of fact, my first boyfriend was from one of the churches we used to visit throughout the years. We lived in two different states, which made it pretty hard to get to know each other, however we talked about getting married all of the time because we found each other within our churches. Needless to say, the relationship did not work out for reasons I won’t discuss at this time.

As I grew up, it became harder and harder to find someone to date in the church. It seemed like everytime a brother would become available, he would get scooped up quickly by one of the other sisters in the church. My home church was mainly family so that was also a problem. I have found that most church girls have experienced the same things. So what do we do? Do we engage in the many, many online dating apps that are out there: Tinder, Match.com, ChristianMingle, etc?

I myself have engaged in online dating. In fact, my last relationship was through a match on Match.com. It seemed like the perfect match. He had most of the qualities I was looking for and his profile stated he was a believer. Eventually this relationship did not work out. As of today, we have been broken up for 4 months. Proverbs 18:22 NKJV states, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from Yahweh (God). So is that what went wrong? I went looking instead of letting this man find me. If we aren’t finding anyone in the churches among us, as women what should we do? Should online dating be an option?

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